I worked with someone who had a young son. She told me that her son asked her why she had that piercing, let me say, it was above her shoulders ...but not in her ear. She asked me how she should handle it. I felt I knew what the piecing was supposed to be for ...but, I asked her why most people decide upon that particular type of piercing. I then told her I felt her son's impression should be significant enough that she might consider whether she wanted to keep the piercing or not.
She did not think that I 'judged' her, as some people may think ...and appreciated my honesty and advice. But, let me also add here, that it does not just set a significant example to our children ...it also shows others what we are going through, whether we intend on them knowing it, or whether we are not aware of it ourselves.
But, it does not mean that all signs that we see are accurate. If a young man has a huge scar on his face ...it does not mean that he's been abused, nor that Social Services should be notified. I believe boys are boys, and they get scars from accidents. Yet, other scars in other places can mean different things. And if someone has a tattoo ...that is not a scar from an accident, but means something else. It may be intended to hide another scar, or it may just be peer pressure.
People seem always willing to do various things to fit into groups. Sometimes they strive to be like others, and other times they strive to be different. But sometimes it goes deeper than that.
There are many emotional scars we don't see.
In the church I go to, I don't see anyone being excluded ...nor do I see the tendency of looking down upon others. And I understand that people go to church for different reasons. A friend of mine once observed that a mutual friend of ours was visiting several churches ...some would say, doing the rounds. But, my friend said our mutual friend was setting a trap line. Of course, this was mutual kidding among mutual friends ...but we had a good laugh, because it was obvious that he was looking for prospects. In fact, it wasn't long after that ...that he did get married.
I am happily married. I don't go to church for the social aspect of it ...I go for the message.
With that being said, I know some who are offended by the message. I believe that our Pastor and Assistant Pastor keep to the message of the Bible ...so if the message offends anyone, I don't think it's the preacher. Many people are offended by what the Bible says. So, sometimes preference is whether we prefer to hear the truth or not.
***I will try to address this in another blog:(http://gogogadgetwhoawhoagadget.blogspot.com/)
People seem always willing to do various things to fit into groups. Sometimes they strive to be like others, and other times they strive to be different. But sometimes it goes deeper than that.
There are many emotional scars we don't see.
In the church I go to, I don't see anyone being excluded ...nor do I see the tendency of looking down upon others. And I understand that people go to church for different reasons. A friend of mine once observed that a mutual friend of ours was visiting several churches ...some would say, doing the rounds. But, my friend said our mutual friend was setting a trap line. Of course, this was mutual kidding among mutual friends ...but we had a good laugh, because it was obvious that he was looking for prospects. In fact, it wasn't long after that ...that he did get married.
I am happily married. I don't go to church for the social aspect of it ...I go for the message.
With that being said, I know some who are offended by the message. I believe that our Pastor and Assistant Pastor keep to the message of the Bible ...so if the message offends anyone, I don't think it's the preacher. Many people are offended by what the Bible says. So, sometimes preference is whether we prefer to hear the truth or not.
***I will try to address this in another blog:(http://gogogadgetwhoawhoagadget.blogspot.com/)
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